Change: love it or hate it, you can’t avoid it
As a general rule, we humans don’t deal brilliantly with change. It unsettles us. Unnerves us. Makes us feel way too vulnerable. So even if we know the most amazing, fabulous life is waiting for us on the other side of it, we still resist.
If you long for something to change in your life, but balk at taking the actions that will create it, you’re not alone. It’s a very natural human reaction. That’s why it can really – really – help to have someone on your team to guide and support you through the process.
It has to be the RIGHT someone though. Someone who gets you. Someone whose approach meshes perfectly with yours. Someone you can trust in those moments of vulnerability.
That’s why About pages like this one are so important. They give you a zero-pressure chance to get to know coaches like me well enough to decide whether you want to get in touch. So if you’d like to learn a little more about me, here’s my story.
Hello. I’m Felicia – and believe me when I say I know what it’s like to deal with change
It’s no exaggeration to say that since my earliest childhood, my only constant has been change. My dad was in the military, so we moved from town to town, school to school, and country to country with what felt like every change of the wind. I met so many different people, and lived in so many different cultures that saying goodbye and starting over became a predictable part of my life.
On the plus side, that history forced me to adapt. I internalized tools and techniques to get comfortable with all that change. I learned to appreciate – and honor – different approaches and ways of doing things. And I learned how to connect with all kinds of different people.
Those changes didn’t magically stop after I left school either. Life continued to happen, and there were more goodbyes and losses to adapt to. Beloved pets I had to farewell along the way. Jobs I’d enjoyed that came to an end (and others I didn’t enjoy that I walked away from). Relationships that ended badly. And finally, in 2003, my father’s passing.
Throughout it all, those skills I learned as a child were a lifeline.
Shortly after my father’s death, I realized that I wanted to help other people deal with the changes in THEIR lives. I moved to California, and spent three years earning my Master’s degree in Transpersonal Psychology. That didn’t work out as I’d hoped though, and more jobs followed… until 2012, when I hit burnout, and tried working from home as a weight loss consultant.
Finally, in 2014, I felt ready to continue the coaching work I’d tried to start more than a decade ago in California. I realized that I’m at my authentic best when I’m helping people to create their own unique path to happiness. There’s nothing more rewarding for me than combining my childhood change-management skills with the tools I’ve learned in my training, and my natural talent for listening – then using them all to transform my clients’ lives.
That’s why I do the work I do today.
10 Things most people don’t know about me
- Although Myers-Briggs says I’m an INFJ/P, people have often accused me of being extroverted. They don’t realise that while I do love being social, I also enjoy – and desperately need – quiet alone-time with Milton (my husband) and our 4 cats.
- While I may an introvert, I’m certainly not shy! For example, I stood up on stage and sang Daydream Believer with Micky Dolenz (The Monkees) in New York in 2012.
- I love to travel, and I’ve been to Paris, France, four times. Perhaps it’s the result of all that childhood change. I just really love being able to take a step back from my own day-to-day environment; and experience life from a different perspective.
- I take regular Nia classes. I love the music of Nia, and also love that you don’t need to be perfect to dance it. Instead of the constant pushpushpush of other exercise forms, you can just dance in the way that works best for you. As far as I’m concerned it’s the ultimate in authentic movement.
- I love being organized and keeping track of EVERYTHING so I don’t forget the details. Milton and I are both wine buffs, and I track all of the wineries we’ve visited in North Carolina on a spreadsheet.
- I also have a very strong creative streak. Two of my favourite crafts include crocheting wire, and making jewelry – including resin Dragonball Z pendants – for sale.
- I’m not afraid of being seen as quirky, and I’m an unashamed sci-fi geek. In particular, I love anime – especially Dragonball Z (which is why I make the pendants). A lot of people around me are Trekkies too.
- I’m comfortable balancing grass-roots pragmatism with a wide openness to the spiritual side of life. I’ve studied astrology on and off since I was a teenager; and have several oracle card decks. My ability to combine the two dimensions is probably a result of my Libra sun and Capricorn moon.
- I don’t believe in limiting celebration to just a few days a year. I love the beauty of Christmas lights, but I get frustrated at how frenetically everyone celebrates the season. That’s why I do what I can to help people feel that sense of celebration all year-round, and actually savour it when it’s present.
- My favourite colours are purple, followed closely by hot pink. Purple is about playfulness and royalty to me, which is why I’ve decorated my office in three shades of it. Both purple and hot pink symbolize self-pride, strength and power to me.
Want to ask me something I haven’t mentioned above?
As I said at the top of this page: I understand. You need to get to know someone before you can trust them to coach you through a major change in life.
So if you have questions that I haven’t addressed on this page, I’m happy to answer them. Just send me an email with your question and I’ll get back to you within 48 hours.
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